Millionaire
Personal story
One day someone asked maddy if she was happy and to which that she said “not yet , I feel like I will never be happy till I reach my goal of being the best version of my self ,I want to be THAT GIRL “
You see here maddy never considered that she can be happy right now and through the process of being as she said THAT GIRL .
And THAT GIRL if you don’t know already is a resent viral trend on social media showing what they call the perfect life of some girls
That night she put her head on her pillow preparing to sleep
Dreaming of a better tomorrow
Suddenly a thought had crossed her mind
What if I never get married or have kids or become a millionaire ?
Would that be so terrible ?
Since my future being good only depends on my concept of happiness
And is pursuing happiness forever is a good thing ?
Why not just go with the flow doing what we love and see where that takes us ?
Because eventually
"Anything that can go wrong will go wrong"
according to Muphry's law
And if true happiness do exist how can I have it more often ?
explanations
To answer Maddy’s questions
The way you go about happiness is first understanding what it is and maddy’s concept of happiness is pretty much related to success which is one of the misconceptions about happiness
You see , happiness and success are different from each other where success is actually getting what you want and happiness is wanting what you get as DOLE CARNEGIE said
So happiness is a choice and a discussion not a condition and authentic happiness is gratification and most people are happy because they associate that happiness to
a pleasurable experience and they don’t last
and take in mind that happiness and pleasure are different from each other
In many ways because happiness is more long lived than pleasureand pleasure is visceral and happiness is ethereal and the source of pleasure comes from dopamine and happiness from serotonin
serotonin | Dopamine |
Comes from giving | Comes from taking |
Achieved with substances and materials | Achieved without substances and materials |
Happens in social groups | Happens mostly alone |
Not addictive | Addictive |
So too much dopamine is bad for the neurotransmitters and makes it die everytime you experience pleasure
In summary “the more pleasure you seek the more unhappy you get”
And to make this more interesting happiness in its self is a bad goal to take on because if you think about it a goal is something you achieve and have forever and as for happiness and we are not talking about gratification but about that momentary pleasure witch is not sustainable so that’s why it can’t be a goal
and the goal of most people actually is not to be happy but to get out of that negative emotional state like feeling sad or depressed,pain ، suffering, anger etc and they try to run from it to unsustainable
Happiness going in an infinite cycle to happy and un happy on and on ,
The secret to get out عof it is to be in the middle ground of them in a state of content where you can deal with negative emotions and appreciate the happy ones and this is the GOUL
Now should people be happy in their life meaning is it possible for someone not to be happy all his or her life ?
The answer is yes because being happy majorly depends on your behaviour and reaction to certain situations in life you can be like the match getting blown away with air or the embers being more flammable
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